I recently read an article that was telling me that bucket lists were bad for people. I sighed heavily as I read on. It told me that bucket lists create a lose/lose situation. The writer went on to say that only two things can happen with the items on the list. The first one is that you may not be able to check it off and thus would feel like a failure. The second thing that could happen is that you do manage to cross something off your list, and it just wouldn’t be as great or exciting as you thought it would be, thus leaving you disappointed. I was completely stunned. I want to ask the author if we should even bother setting goals or aspire to achieve our dreams. We wouldn’t want to be disappointed. (Insert sarcasm font here 🙂 )
The Grief in Dealing with Chonic Pain
Are you feeling like you are going crazy dealing with chronic pain or illness? You are not mad; you are probably dealing with grief.
Dealing with Chronic pain can change you into someone you don’t recognize. Sure, you can get cranky, snarky, pessimistic, and short of temper. These reactions are expected and understandable when dealing with something that’s continuously physically uncomfortable, but there can be a darker side to this condition. There is no societal knowledge or acceptance when dealing with the grief of chronic pain. Researchers have found that chronic pain can lead to unrealized grief with the added disorder of anxiety.
